Day is warm, I hear
The wind and the trees
I know Im there, but I'll never be...
The wind is soft tonight
The tide is low
And I know the way
I never felt better, now
Sometimes life, it moves too slow
Slows to a crawl,
And then the poetry is lost
And without speed,
Hope becomes certainty
And for once, Im certain
I never felt better, now
A garden is it's own perfect world
Where everything has a place
Mmm, every leaf, every stone
Every speck of dirt
But wheres my place?
I never felt better, now
I even tried
To get arrested today,
But everyone looked the other way
I count the hours
And I count the days
But for once, Im certain
I never felt better, now
Thursday, August 5, 2010
Why do i feel helpless
Why do i feel helpless
Helplessness is the feeling someone gets when he finds himself unable to change something in his that is important to him. Helplessness is one major cause of depression since depression in many cases can be nothing more than a feeling someone gets when he loses hope in getting something that he really wanted.
Just like an electric current flows in a circuit, motivation flaws in our minds as long as the circuit is connected, but when a part of the wire is torn the current stops flawing and we lose motivation.
This wire is torn when we feel helpless or when we think that we are not in control of the circumstances. One of the most important definitions of helplessness is the loss of control over someone’s life.
The Anatomy of helplessness
So if helplessness is one of the major causes of depression then we need to understand how do we develop the feelings of helplessness so that we can avoid them. The following list explains the main causes behind feelings of helplessness:
* Lack of control causes helplessness: As long as our actions are related to the outcomes we get we feel in control even if the outcomes were bad. For example, if a student didn’t study then failed an exam he won’t feel helpless simply because he will attribute his failure to not working hard but if a student studied and got a B instead of the A he expected he might feel helpless!!
* Past experience and learned helplessness: In My article learned helplessness I explained how we can learn to become helpless when we face several situations that we fail to deal with. No one is born helpless but we learn how to become helpless as a result of facing problems that we have no control over
* Lack of skills causes helplessness: Do you remember Macgyver? The guy was totally unstoppable because of his ability to invent devices that helped him deal with the problems he faced. If you don’t have enough skills to deal with life problems then surely you will become helpless
* Helplessness infection: Some people have learned to become helpless before even facing life problems as a result of listening to helpless friends talking about their past experiences. (See how your friends influence you)
* Belief system problems: Once someone develops a belief like "I am failure" or "Life is unfair" he becomes helpless for the rest of his life!! After all one of the reasons we become motivated to do something is believing that we can do it, if that belief was replaced with a helpless one then surely helplessness will replace motivation.
Helplessness is the feeling someone gets when he finds himself unable to change something in his that is important to him. Helplessness is one major cause of depression since depression in many cases can be nothing more than a feeling someone gets when he loses hope in getting something that he really wanted.
Just like an electric current flows in a circuit, motivation flaws in our minds as long as the circuit is connected, but when a part of the wire is torn the current stops flawing and we lose motivation.
This wire is torn when we feel helpless or when we think that we are not in control of the circumstances. One of the most important definitions of helplessness is the loss of control over someone’s life.
The Anatomy of helplessness
So if helplessness is one of the major causes of depression then we need to understand how do we develop the feelings of helplessness so that we can avoid them. The following list explains the main causes behind feelings of helplessness:
* Lack of control causes helplessness: As long as our actions are related to the outcomes we get we feel in control even if the outcomes were bad. For example, if a student didn’t study then failed an exam he won’t feel helpless simply because he will attribute his failure to not working hard but if a student studied and got a B instead of the A he expected he might feel helpless!!
* Past experience and learned helplessness: In My article learned helplessness I explained how we can learn to become helpless when we face several situations that we fail to deal with. No one is born helpless but we learn how to become helpless as a result of facing problems that we have no control over
* Lack of skills causes helplessness: Do you remember Macgyver? The guy was totally unstoppable because of his ability to invent devices that helped him deal with the problems he faced. If you don’t have enough skills to deal with life problems then surely you will become helpless
* Helplessness infection: Some people have learned to become helpless before even facing life problems as a result of listening to helpless friends talking about their past experiences. (See how your friends influence you)
* Belief system problems: Once someone develops a belief like "I am failure" or "Life is unfair" he becomes helpless for the rest of his life!! After all one of the reasons we become motivated to do something is believing that we can do it, if that belief was replaced with a helpless one then surely helplessness will replace motivation.
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